The secret of beauty...

Tuesday, November 23, 2004

Beauty is such a subjective aspect of life. Don't you guys agree? This subjectivity not only occurs because one person may consider, for example, a woman is beautiful while another person thinks that woman is just average-looking; but sometimes, that single person himself might think that woman is beautiful but at other times, not.

What I'm getting at? Lately, I seem to notice that not all women that I think are beautiful and pretty at first glance, are actually beautiful. I mean, those few times, or maybe countless times (heh) you look at that woman, you might find her breathtakingly beautiful, with looks that no other woman can compare to. But when you really know her, when you really speak to her, when you really can look straight at her face, you'll begin to pick up all those negative features of her face (crooked nose, unsmooth skin, high cheekbone, etc... - you get the idea), and body, and then reality starts to sink in: she doesn't actually have that "all-conquering" beauty that you initially thought she had. Then, you say to yourself, "She's just average-looking."

On the contrary, people that, again, at first glance you thought was quite unattractive, when you really get to know her, and get to look at her face ever so often, will finally make you think, "She's nice (or at least average)-looking, actually."

Feel familiar with this situation? At least, I do. There are some women that I've met that fit those two situations I described above. I'm really talking from experience here.

I know, I know, some women really are beautiful no matter whether you look at her up close, or from far away (I just can't seem to think Kristin Kreuk is just average-looking no matter what angle I'm looking at her... ;)), but what I'm saying here is the general situation. It's what's happening most of the time, with most women that I see.

So, it just goes to show that, beauty at first glance, is not something you should base your decisions on finding THE person to share your life with. Instead, focus on other qualities. Your compatibility, the feel-good factor you get with him/her, your closeness with him/her, and so on. The beauty part will grow into you. Given time, a person whom you initially find to be unattractive, will finally appear beautiful to you. :)

The only one person that, no matter which angle, and no matter how many times you look at, will always appear beautiful to you, is YOURSELF. Correct? At least that's how I feel about myself. No matter what other people say, no matter what I'm wearing, what style I'm sporting, I'll always see a handsome person staring back at me from the other side of the mirror. :)

Bottom line? Our perception of a person's beauty is not static. Rather, it's dynamic. It changes with time. A person's beauty can grow into us, and also grow out of us.

That is the true secret of beauty...


Posted by Nikman Shah at 7:26 am
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