Week 8 (that means 4 weeks to go!)

Thursday, June 02, 2005

Hi guys! Well, I think it's been nearly 2 weeks since I last put up a post
here in my blog. Well, at least I write something new around once a week,
rather than leave this blog unattended for months.

The reason why I rarely blog nowadays is that I don't have time. Every day
I go to work, while each night I help out in preparing my house for the
wedding reception my parents are holding for my brother who, by the way,
have been happily married for 1 and a half years already; the reason they
host this reception late is because they work overseas (in the UK) and
don't have much free time to come back for an extended holiday and host
this reception.

But anyway, due to some unforseen circumstances, they're now home and our
family are frantically preparing the house for the reception. And I have to
chip in, too. Plus there's also the fact that I don't have much to blog
about. Well, most of my time is spent at the office, which is a very boring
place. Even though I meet people, they have lots of work to do. So most of
the time, I'm left alone.

Have you guys watched Madagascar? I've watched it, and I think it's okay.
Based on the hype I heard about the movie, I thought it will be one heck of
a crazy, funny movie. But, well it actually isn't that at all. Well, I'm
not saying that the jokes fell flat, but it's just not extremely funny
enough, I guess. Or maybe I've lost my sense of humour. Oh well, who
knows...

Today also marks the birthday of my girlfriend. Happy birthday dearie!
Well, it's pointless writing that actually, since she doesn't read my blog.
Regardless, I still want to wish her a happy birthday and hope that she
succeeds in her future undertakings, insyaAllah. For her birthday, I've
done something that I've never done to anyone else before. =) I'm committed
to her, and I'm sure I will remain in love with her for the rest of our
lives, insyaAllah... doa for us my friends... =)

Speaking about relationships, what do you guys think about marriage? When
you start a romantic relationship, of course you would be targeting to
further advance that relationship to a marriage relationship, right? Or am
I wrong? If I'm right, how long would you guys wait until asking for
his/her hand in marriage? What qualities would you guys look in your future
spouse?

From my point of view, I will try to look for these 3 things in my future
spouse (FYI, my girlfriend has them all, alhamdulillah). One (and the most
important quality): she should have a nice personality. She does not have
to be an extremely good person, or very alim, and so on. If she is like
that, well and good. But if she's not, as long as her basic personality is
nice, its good enough for me. I as her husband would help guide her along
the righteous path, insyaAllah...

Two: she should be able to show her love and appreciation for me. She
doesn't have to be a crazy lovey dovey woman that always expresses her love
for me. If she does, I'm still fine (and happy!) by it. But as long as I
can detect that she loves me, appreciates the affection I give to her, and
cares for me, I'll be extremely happy. :)

And three: she should be easy on MY eyes. Notice the emphasis on "MY". My
spouse does not have to be the most beautiful woman in the world; as long
as I feel happy looking at her, it's enough. After all, beauty is
subjective: I might think a person is good looking, but other people might
think differently, and vice versa.

But don't get me wrong. Beauty is waaaaaaay down at the bottom of my list,
because I know beauty is just skin deep. Yup, it's just the cover of a book
that might be damaged as time goes on. What's more important is the
CONTENTS of the book, which will remain the same no matter how old or how
damaged the book is.

I know there are other qualities that people look out for (especially when
it concerns women looking for suitable men for marriage), such as maturity,
material wealth, keturunan, and so on, but in MY OPINION, I think those
things are peripherals. They're not as important to me as the three main
qualities I stated before.

As for how long before proposing to someone? To ME (and based on my
experience, too), it should be as soon as possible. In my case, as long as
I generally know enough about my girlfriend to know that she's the right
one for me, I'll want to ask her hand in marriage. After all, it's not good
to remain in a romantic relationship without marrying that person for far
too long. Unfortunately, a few other things need also be taken into
consideration, such as the financial capability to support a family, and so
on. But in my case, I'm really looking at trying to marry her as soon as is
possible. :)

Okay, now, don't go and FLAME me for my comments above, coz they are just
PERSONAL OPINIONS of mine. I'm not at all asking you to agree with them
100%. What I hope you guys would do is just give some opinions on the
matter at hand, comments about what I said, and answer the rhetorical
questions I gave in paragraph 6 previously. I almost definitely would love
to obtain the opinions of people who have already married, such as Kak An.
What is your take on this, Kak An?

Hmm... I think that's enough for now. This post should last for 1 week. In
my next post, I'll recap what happened during my brother's wedding
reception. Till then, goodbye!

Posted by Nikman Shah at 10:13 am
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